In general are you an exploring and curious kind of person, the one who is always looking for something new and creative, or are you the one who likes to play it safe. You know the one who likes to stick to what they know and that’s it or the one who doesn’t like to venture outside the box that he or she lives in.
Our general behavior as we live and function day to day in life also reflects our sexual behavior and desire. We all have a basic understanding and style to our lovemaking. For some love making can be very predictable for their partner and yet for others love making can be very spontaneous and creative. They like to enjoy a variety of positions and places to perform their sex act. The bedroom is not the only place they like to be.
This kind of behavior really does play a part in your sexual exploration. Exploring means just that, wanting to find out just what having sex on the kitchen counter in the middle of the day is like. Are you willing to try that with your partner or does that thought of that make you blush with embarrassment or nervous because it’s not the bed in your dark room under the covers that you are so accustomed to. Break away from the fear of the unknown.
This can tell a lot about how you are going to be in bed. Are you the shy and timid kind who doesn’t like to ask for what they want or are you the kind who says this is what I want and I want it like this? I’m not saying that you should go and have sex on a subway train or in the back of a bus, however if you are both agreeing that is what you would like to sneak and try to accomplish then go at it.
Ask yourselves this folks. Are you willing to step over the mundane boundaries of common sex by trying someplace different to have sex or by surprising him or her with a sex toy? If you are not sure then you need to have a discussion with your partner first before venturing into something that might make you or them really uncomfortable.
It will always be a bit uncomfortable wondering what a dildo or vibrator might be like if you never tried one before but the question to ask is your partner curious enough to want to try it out. If you are sexually compatible the excitement from curiosity should be greater than the fear of thinking that this kind of sexual play is unforbidden because only the deranged play with sex toys.
You may be passionate about puppies and kittens and wanting world peace but not necessarily compatible with your deepest and darkest sexual desires. We all have sexual fantasies but that question is are you willing to share then with your partner or keep them to yourself and always wonder about it. This is your life partner.
Eddie Yakubovich
